thanks a ton, Solid One! putting everything to 1 column helped me so much. I also found that the game randmoly mirrors the characters back and forth... like the numbers 0-9 were all mirrored, but then the letters A-Z started normal again... and then when I got to the Japanese, some were normal and some were mirrored... a lot of randomness so I had to keep switching back and forth, but I think I got all the relations so I can relative search now.
thanks to everyone who gave input or otherwise tried to help, hopefully I can actually make some progress now. I'll post again if I have anymore problems.
EDIT: well, based on how the characters were laid out when viewing in TileMolester, I got what I figured would be the relative order of the characters... but when I ran relative searches on various words found in the game, I either got no matches returned or got several matches and when going through every single one of them and changing a character and then going back into the game to see if it changed what I was looking at, I never saw any change to the word at all. I wonder what I'm doing wrong now...
to further explain, here are the exact steps I took:
1. opened ROM in Tile Molester and found the game's characters. I then numbered them from 0-230 based on the order of appearance to get
this base relative reference sheet
2. I went into the game and selected a line of text that appears fairly early into the game so it would be a good reference point to check easily (I made sure it was dialouge and not menu, because I dunno if some menus might be graphically-composed)
3. using the previously obtained reference numbers, I ran a relative search on that line of text I chose for my testing
4. after getting the result list, I looked at each offset and changed the first character to be equal to the second character to see if when I went back to the same point in the game, the second character would now be doubled.
I tried the method with a few different words, but I never got any changes after going through all the returned results in each.